also, anal sex, in the most loving way

True Lust, by Tristan Taormino. Basically, Love Line combined with The L Word (with more butch-ness, though written from a femme perspective) with dabs of journalism. Taormino adeptly brushes between gender and cultural theory and touching upon her personal experiences with everything from getting coached in masturbation to her personal opinions on various kinks and sexual practices, all within in a context of her own experience. And, on top of all that, in a very casual, personable, easy to read style. Well played, Ms Taormino. A nice collection of essays.

-if saw this through a telescope unexpectedly I'm fairly sure I'd yelp

-sounds like they should make a movie about Antar, to me (yay warrior-poets!)